Q. WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
Wedding marks the coming together of two individuals. It is a bond not only between two individuals but also between two souls. Indian marriages are clad (full) with rituals and customs. It is an elaborate concept in every Indian community. Nowadays Hindu weddings are celebrated on a large scale. Family and friends get together to celebrate the occasion. In Hindu wedding rituals are performed in front of the Hindu deities and joining the bride and groom in an eternal bond of love and commitment.

Legal Definition of Marriage:
A contract made in due form of law, by which a free man and a free woman reciprocally engage to live with each other during their joint lives, in the union which ought exist between husband and wife. By the terms freeman and freewoman in this definition are meant, not only that they are free and not slaves, but also that they are clear of all bars to a lawful marriage.

Q.WHAT ARE ARRANGED MARRIAGES?
Arranged marriages are marriages which are negotiated primarily by the parents of the couple, rather than the couple themselves. Most of the persons think that Arranged marriage is the only way to make your Married life relations stronger economic.
But we see the view of western countries towards Arranged Marriage their concept is totally different. They think it is just an unpleasant experience for both persons especially every time a woman becomes the victim of such forced marriages.
      Now time has been changed when ever the concept of Arranged Marriage comes parents themselves give the chance to their children’s what the step they have taken weather they are happy with that  and wants to go further. Arranged Marriages are also giving chance that two persons can better know each other.The more modern arranged marriage involves a negotiation between the parents of a bride or groom and the parents of multiple prospective spouses. The parents create a short list of spouses who they think would be good matches for their children, and introduce the children to each spouse individually, sometimes allowing them to have some time alone to talk. Ultimately, the children choose for themselves, although they choose from a list of parentally approved potential partners. However, if either party is not receptive to the idea of a marriage, negotiations are called off. These arranged marriages can result in a strong life-long partnership.
The divorce rate is lower for Arranged marriages. Divorce never became good for the person as well as for society, and the couple may also be afraid to divorce because of social pressure. We can’t say that arranged marriages may be happier than love marriages because unhappy and abused spouses can exist anywhere. If a clear freedom of choice exists for both members of the potential couple, many think that the marriage will have a better chance of success.

Q. HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIED LIFE SUCCESSFUL?
Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: finding the right person and being the right person" quote. Do we really know the actual definition of a successful marriage? If not than lets look for it and see what conclusion we can draw. We often say that someone somewhere is made for you and the day you come across that person you feel that that he or she is the one you have been waiting for. Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it. To sustain a marriage it is important that there is effort from both sides than only a marriage can carry on. A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If you can include these aspects in your married life you can find happiness in your marriage. A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. There are few small and minute aspects, which we tend to forget in our married life, as we get busy with the daily chores. So at times it is important to indulge in those minute details of a married life, which will constantly remind each other of the love and concern being present.

MARITAL DISCORDS
Whenever the mind doesn’t match between couples than there is initiation of discords between them. The feeling of disagreement is the root cause of emotional instability and outburst. Slowly these feeling changes in to conflicts and gives rise in Marital Discords. There are different types of conflicts, which make a marital relation a bumpy ride. Following are some types of marital conflicts:

• Rational conflicts: In these conflicts Money plays a vital role. Every time both sides are blaming each other over the topic of earnings.
• Irrational Conflicts: The reason for this could be any thing like jealousy, possessiveness, suspicions etc. When ever a person thinks that his spouse earns more than him/her and in everyone’s view he/she is getting more importance than him/her than these conflicts gets raised.
• Interpersonal Conflicts: The reason behind this conflict is the ego between couple. No one is ready to accept their mistake.
• Personal Conflict: A personal conflict arises when one of the individuals has something going on within him or her. Affair of one of the spouse outside the wedlock can give rise to such conflict. This affair can be either pre or post marital. This sort of problem can tear apart one of the partner emotionally.
  

  MARRIAGE DISCORS AND MARRIAGE COMPATIBILITY

• Countless are the problems which we have to meet in living together. Our whole lifetime is given over to overcoming obstacles.
• Marriage is of definite advantage, for it brings together two people for mutual help in the struggle for existence. But though marriage helps us to meet the tasks of life-it is also a task which must be met.
• Our marital problems are a test of our ability to live closely together with another human being
• As long as life goes on, forces will oppose each other, interests will clash, demands will conflict.
• Pre-marital counseling is a good resource for learning more about each other and this type of therapy is intended to help develop a deeper level of communication.
• Good communication is important in any relationship but especially in marriage. When selecting a counselor, be sure to ask questions about the topics covered in pre-marital counseling sessions.
• Many couples also look to their places of worship and their clergy for pre-marital counseling. This is a good idea for those who share the same faith and believe it is an important part of their relationship. However, it is also important for couples who don’t share the same faith or for those in which one partner is religious and the other is not. Religious compatibility can become a serious issue. Also, note that some churches prefer not to marry a member to a person outside that faith.
• Make sure you choose an objective counselor to conduct your pre-marital counseling sessions. Some counselors can be on the subjective side and are more concerned with individual needs and desires than they are with finding out what is best for the couple as a whole. You may end up deciding not to get married after such a confrontation, and that may not be what is best in your situation. If you are uncomfortable with the type of pre-marital counseling you are receiving, seek out another counselor.